Anxiety Course 41v
Welcome, some pre-session stuff. Set the frames and expetations. How to use, when to use. 3 types of session - explain. Open loops.
Use appropriate language and order based on Personal Profile
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Session One
What's The Problem?
The purpose of this first session is to understand the structure and nature of that anxiety, which means there is a need to describe it. It is not unusual to feel the emotion during this session, that’s perfectly normal, it will soon pass. This first session is the only time it’s useful to talk about that old anxiety in any detail. Once you start, please complete finish the session as it begins the process that allows the anxiety to disappear, reduce or diminish to an acceptable level.
Take your time, there’s no rush
Spend some time to answer each of the questions and write down whatever comes to mind, without analysing, reviewing, or filtering. At this stage, the more you write the better as it will help to break down the cause of the anxiety.
This session will help to draw out the anxiety so that you can finally begin to put it behind you, so please answer any questions as fully as you feel able. Should, at any time the emotions feel too much, simply press the “It’s too much” button to be guided through several techniques designed to quickly reduce the feelings of anxiety.
What will happen during the session?
Talkingcures will ask questions about the anxiety in a way that you’ll start to see it in a different way. The questions are designed to make you feel differently about it. So don’t be surprised if new thoughts, feelings, or observations pop into your head during the process. That’s exactly what’s meant to happen. Often, it’s useful to have a way to write down or record any new ideas, feelings, or thoughts as they come to you.
Like all the sessions in this course, this one is designed to be used more than once, unlike the other sessions it’s not advisable to repeat this session until after you have completed the entire course.
Where should I be for this session?
Find somewhere quiet and comfortable, somewhere that you’ll not be disturbed for the duration of the session. Ideally somewhere free of outside interference or interruptions.
Session Two
Detailed Personal History - flip
A typeform session that takes then through the DPH and FLIP and that's sprinkled with some reframes
Session Three
Cartesian Logic
Why does this happen? A typeform session that examines the problem from the 4 perspectives of cartesian logic.
Find The Trigger, The Root Cause
Is this similar to the 15 minute therapy chapter for these 2 elements. If so do a typical typeform Q&A session with some added reframes.
Session Four (VAKAd), one of either
How You Structure the Problem - Submodalities
Essentially the three element fast phobia cure, that I used during the ESP presentations, perhaps with some added bits and with the usual reframes.
Session Five
Problem Reframe
(VAKAd), one of either
Visual Squash - Swish Pattern
Kinasthetic Squash - Huna technique use plasticine
Auditory Squash - talking backwards
Ad Squash - or Slight of Mouth
Session Six
A Guided Relaxation
During this session talkingcures will take you through a guided relaxation session. The session will last around twenty minutes or so. You can visualise the process as relaxation, meditation, hypnosis, or mindfulness as all are different names for the same totally relaxed state. You will already be aware of this totally relaxed state as it’s identical to that natural state between waking and sleep. To reach that state the session will be using gentle suggestion, working with your imagination and creativity.
If you’ve listened to a guided meditation before, you may notice some differences between them and this relaxation session. The main difference is that this session doesn’t require you to visualise ‘walking down a pathway’, or feel ‘the warm grass beneath your feet’ or hear the sound of ‘the babbling brook to your left’. That’s because sensory based meditations can disconnect a listener just as easily as connect with them. In this session the only requirement is that you follow any suggestions if given, listen and relax.
What’s the purpose of the session?
Imagine that the cause and trigger for your anxiety could be gently reduced or removed, that’s the purpose of this session. Both the root cause and trigger are stored in your unconscious mind and guided relaxation is highly effective at working with your unconscious. That’s why consciously all you’ll need to do is follow the suggestions.
The session is designed to reduce the anxiety root cause and triggers thereby reducing the frequency and intensity, leaving you feeling better about yourself and more relaxed and in control. So, after the session be aware of the changes in the way you respond and react in situations which had they have happened in the past, would have caused you to feel anxious, and see that they do not.
Your role in the session.
Now, here’s the thing about a talkingcures guided meditation, a coach can only provide suggestions. It’s up to you to choose to follow these suggestions. No one can do it for you, that’s up to you.
For example, if a suggestion is to close your eyes and relax the muscles around the eyes so much that you cannot open them.
It’s you who closes your eyes.
It’s you that relaxes the muscles around the eyes so much that you cannot open them. It’s you that makes it happen.
Your contribution to making it a success is to follow these suggestions. That’s how you’ll get maximum benefit from this session.
What will I be aware of during the session?
During the guided relaxation, although you will feel relaxed, centred, and balanced you won’t actually be going to sleep. You will be able to understand perfectly well everything that is said to you. You will know what’s going on around you should you need to respond to something outside of the session, although there might be a few differences, you might start to feel very relaxed.
Where should I listen to/experience the session?
Find somewhere to sit comfortably, somewhere that you’ll not be disturbed for the duration of the session. It should be free of noise or other outside interference, probably somewhere you already associate as a cosy, comfortable, relaxing space. You may find that you relax best with your feet flat on the floor and your arms comfortably in your lap or by your side. Although lying on a bed would work equally well. The important thing is that you feel comfortable and relaxed. Also, some people find that having a way to record their thoughts and feelings after the session useful.
Are you sitting comfortably? Let’s begin.
Session Seven
Anchoring
Stuff to describe the session and anchoring, what it is, why it's important and when to use it. Set up resource anchor.
Session Eight
Time Line Coaching
Time-Line Coaching (TLC) is a way fast, effective and emotion free way to help access memories and re-evaluate them. It one of the best techniques available for removing negative emotions and decisions that limit you.
Every negative emotion we experience or limiting decision we make began at some point in the past. To be exact, prompted by an event that happened in the past. Before then it didn’t exist, then something happened for the first time, and it became a thing. The first time may have been a major event, but typically it isn’t, often it’s something that seems insignificant; whatever the event, it caused a feeling to be created, a decision to be taken or a judgement to be made, the effects of which are still with you.
Since that first event, it has grown over time because subsequent events have re-enforced it until you find yourself here. The purpose of this session is to uncover that first event, that first memory and review it, find new distinctions, and see it for what it really was.
If you think back to a past memory, your last birthday for example, you know when it was in your past because your unconscious stores all your memories in a timeline. The memory of that first event is stored in the same way, even if you are not yet consciously aware of it.
Cutting the emotion string
TLC will guide you go back to that first event, that first memory and help you to change its meaning. This has the effect of changing all the subsequent events where that negative emotion was present. Think of it as if all the negative events being linked together, TLC breaks the link and all the events fall apart, like cutting the string on a string of pearls, they just fall away taking the negative emotion with them.
Cutting the emotion string instantly removes the intensity of the feeling, resetting the emotion to zero. So should it be appropriate for you feel it in the future, the feeling is proportionate to the event and not a culmination of everything that happened in the past. This prevents events which had they have happed in the past, may have triggered going off on one, getting things out of proportion or overreacting.
Finding your timeline
Before starting the session your first experience of the TLC process is to find how your unconscious mind organises your timeline. During this session some people say they imagine their timeline as a path between the past, present and future, others have a feeling of it, or get a sense of it and some just accept it’s there. The way you perceive your timeline will be right for you. Once you’ve gone through this short ‘find your timeline’ exercise, you’ll be ready to continue to the full session.
Storage of memories
There are several ways that your unconscious mind may store memories. The language of the unconscious mind is symbolic, it uses metaphor so not all of them may make sense on a conscious level. Sometime people ask, “are the memories real?” During the session a memory may be of an actual event, or it may be a memory presented in a more abstract symbolic style. Either will work just fine to release the emotion, so work with whatever comes up.
Are these memories real?
Real or not, what they are is the way that your unconscious mind stores and structures the problem in your mind. So, for the process to work, it doesn’t really matter if the memories are real or not. The act of changing the memory, the way the problem is stored and structured, will change the problem. Once its structure is altered the problem can’t exist. That’s how it’s possible to make the problem disappear so quickly. If you go with whatever comes to mind during the TLC process, it will work for you.
The ways your unconscious may store memories.
Logically there are just six 'timelines' that your unconscious mind can use to organise memories and it's highly likely that it uses more than one of them. Remember that the language of your unconscious mind is similie and metaphor, dreams being a good example. So just because a memory is stored in a certain way this does not imply that way actually exists. It may just be the symbolic way that some memories are structured and stored.
1. Before your birth - It’s possible that you may have memories from the womb or from before you were conceived. If your unconscious stores some memories in this way, it doesn’t necessarily imply you were conscious in the womb or that you had memories of a previous life, memories handed down from a relative or from the time between lives.
2. During your birth - being born is a major event, and it’s also a strong metaphor, so it’s not surprising that the unconscious mind may link powerful emotions to this event.
3. After your birth - negative emotions can, and often are be formed early in life, typically before the age of five, so the unconscious mind will remember those events and tag them. That’s normal and true for everyone.
However, your unconscious mind organises and stores memories, the important thing is when answering a question, to go with the very first answer, even if it makes no logical sense. Go with the very first answer, especially if it doesn’t make logical sense, because it’ll be the right answer. And the one that will be of most benefit during the session.
Learnings from the memory
When you go back to a significate event or memory, you’ll be asked to review that event to give you new learnings and understandings from that memory. To get maximum benefit from the TLC process those learnings should be:
Positive - take out the good stuff, avoid words like don’t, doesn’t can’t and won’t. Instead flip it to the positive, do, does, can and will.About you - this is about your feelings, emotions, and behaviour, so focus on that rather than others.
Future Orientated - any take out from this event should be helpful or useful for you to develop and change in the future.
Where should I be for this session?
Find somewhere you feel comfortable, somewhere that you’ll not be disturbed during the session. Somewhere free of noise or other distractions, probably somewhere you already associate as a calm, comfortable, relaxing space.
Session Nine
Parts Integration. Future Pace
Session Ten
Use appropriate language and order based on Personal Profile
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Ongoing - ecology - set frames - close loops